To All The Boys I've Dated Before

Some loves teach you how to hold on. Others teach you how to leave.

To All the Boys I've Dated Before is a debut poetry memoir that moves through one queer man's education in the heart, a first love and the faith it cost him, the grief shadowing a relationship, the psychologist who could read a birth chart but never quite read him, the regrets he'd take back, and the quiet, radical decision to finally choose himself.

Written in the confessional, lyric tradition of Rupi Kaur and Ocean Vuong, Joshua Shane Wiggins maps heartbreak with unflinching tenderness: church pews traded for sunrise waves, bodies given and reclaimed, the men who left and the friends who stayed.

These are poems about desire and shame, attachment and astrology, language barriers and driver's licenses, and the long walk back to yourself. At its center is a return, to the boy who believed in love, and the man learning he was worthy of it all along.

Tender, unguarded, and deeply resonant, this is a collection for anyone who has loved too hard, hurt too quietly, and kept believing anyway.